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Who’s the Boss behind the bar? @Legends

This month Morgan Fabulous chats to the new management team at Legends on Brighton seafront.

Legends, for many years a stalwart of the commercial gay scene in Brighton and Hove, and one of the few late night bars left in the gay village offering great value drinks until 5am in the morning, has two new managers.

Following the departure of Reece Roberts who managed Legends for the past 10 years, Dan Austin and Jemela Quick have jointly taken over running the multi award-winning venue.

Last year, Legends went through a refurbishment, but when Dan and Jemela took over the reins they felt it was important that they didn’t change too much.

Tony Chapman had spent a handsome amount of money on new floors, upgrading the bedrooms and new decoration to support the Legends staff who take great pride in the venue, enabling them to maintain the high standards they’ve always been proud of. With the best will in the world there was always going to be an impact of some sort, but what Reece created during his time at Legends was a fantastic working business model. Obviously some faces have changed as they always do in this industry but Dan and Jemela just want their customers to continue feeling at home and relaxed when they come to visit the bar, the club or the hotel. From a personal view it was nice to see that there were still a lot of familiar faces behind the bar. 

Dan originally worked for Barclays Bank as a mortgage advisor, before deciding on a change in career and moving into dentistry. He trained to be a dental nurse at Kings, working in a dental surgery for a few years. Though out his time poking around in people’s mouths he worked part-time at Legends, in the kitchen, as a housekeeper and behind the bar.

Jemela originally worked in retail. She started her bar career working in Club Revenge, but when the club was sold she moved up the road to work behind the bar at Legends. The rest, as they say is history. She loves seeing all of the familiar faces that Brighton has to offer and says that going to work is more like visiting friends and family than actually doing work.

Dan and Jemela have lived in the same parts of the UK at similar points in their lives and are both from large families with seven and eight siblings. They were born in the West Country, Dan’s family moved to Scotland for a few years, and then returned to Hertfordshire, where Jemela’s family also lived.

Jemela says: “We both love Brighton incredibly, the quirkiness and individuality that everyone has without anywhere near as much judgement as you feel in most other parts of the UK”.

Dan is currently in a new relationship, “it’s still early days”, he says “I just want to have stress-free happiness…and pink trainers! You can never have enough pairs of pink trainers!” He is currently studying accountancy so doesn’t have much free time outside of work with anyone other than the cats, who need feeding regularly. Legends is his full-time passion. His favourite film is Iron Man and his favourite readings are the Harry Potter Books.

Jemela has been with her partner Ali for a very long time! So long, they now have three cats together. She says: “I just want to be successful in life and happy. Not sure where I see myself in five or ten years’ time but I hope it’s still here in Brighton with my friends around me.”

She loves reading, watching movies and being social. She says her favourite film is a toss-up between Love Actually and Perfect Pitch and her favourite book is All Quiet on the Western Front,

She adds: “Like Dan said, there’s not really much time for ourselves, but we’re doing what we’re passionate about and want to make sure we try our best.”

 

PREVIEW: ‘TESTOSTERONE’ by Kit Redstone

What kind of man are you?

Image: Richard Davenport

One year after his first injection of testosterone, Kit is perceived completely as a man. However, with this triumph comes a crisis of masculinity: what kind of man is he?

Drawing on autobiographical experiences, this is the true story of transgender writer-performer Kit Redstone‘s first entrance into a male gym changing room at the age of 33.  What first appears as a routine ritual of four men changing after a work out, then transforms into an epic coming-of-age quest for a masculine identity in an environment that affords little space to hide.

TESTOSTERONE combines storytelling, comedy and physical theatre to offer an intimate, life-enhancing glimpse into Kit’s unique perspective. It also tells a powerful story about gender itself, charting Kit’s own experiences as a new man stepping for the first time into the world of masculinity.

Irreverent and refreshingly honest, TESTOSTERONE explores the sometimes toxic world of men and looks at the benefits and restraints Kit has observed whilst becoming a man.

At the forefront of the UK’s transgender theatre movement, Kit Redstone’s work is leading the way towards making more inclusive, respectful theatre. TESTOSTERONE won Best Theatre Show at the Pleasance Indie Awards 2017, was nominated for the Peter Brook Empty Space Award 2017, and was featured as part of the British Council Showcase at Edinburgh Festival Fringe 2017.

“Multi-layered and gripping physical theatre piece is much more than what Redstone wickedly satirises as another story about “brave little trans soldiers” which reminds us that transitioning is a beginning not an ending”…. The Guardian

For Rhum and Clay, this show follows Edinburgh smash hit 64 Squares, which received wide critical acclaim. They have also presented HardboiledThe Man in the Moone and The Strange Case of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. Lyn Gardner recently wrote how “Rhum and Clay have come of age,” while Broadway Baby said, “With Testosterone, Rhum and Clay have proven themselves to be one of the most exciting and engaging theatre companies currently working in Britain.”


Event: Rhum and Clay & Kit Redstone present TESTOSTERONE

Where: The Old Market, 11a Upper Market Street, Hove, BN3 1AS

When: Monday, March 5 – Wednesday, March 7, 2018

Time: 7.30pm

Cost: £12.50/£10 concs.

To book tickets online, click here:

Or telephone: 01273 201 801

BAR PERSON PROFILE: Jamie Lee Jones @Bar Broadway

The first person many LGBT+ folk meet when they arrive in the city is the bar person at their local LGBT+ venue. These gatekeepers to the community provide an important role both befriending and signposting new arrivals to the city. Gscene finds out a bit more about them and what makes them special.

Where do you come from? Dorchester.

What brought you to Brighton? I always heard it was great if you were gay and the nightlife was great (which it is).

How long have your worked at Bar Broadway? 2 months officially but been helping out on and off over last two years.

Oddest thing you’ve been asked for behind the bar? Honestly, been doing it ten years I can’t think of one.

What’s the worst kind of punter? Someone who clicks their fingers at you or waves an empty glass, just think it’s rude.

Give me your best put down line? I’d love a drink, as long as you’re not under the impression that offering me one will entice me to hook up with you later.

What do you do when it’s quiet in the bar? If there’s time to lean then there is definitely time to clean! 

Can you pull a pint? I can definitely pull a pint, you have to pull not push!

Do you know the difference between Ale and Beer? Absolutely, who doesn’t? 

Prefer to be shaken or stirred? Definitely shaken, continuously!

Whats your favourite tipple? A nice cold glass of vino usually hits the spot. 

What makes you roll your eyes? Everything haha.

Are those really your photos on Grindr? Yes haha I don’t think I’m old enough to start lying about that just yet.

What makes a perfect barperson? Speed, product knowledge and a great personality.

Where do you like to go out when you’re not working? Normally end up in Legends or the Casino where the bars open til 7am 😜

Tell us a secret about yourself? I’m pretty much an open book, I’ve never eaten a sweet potato fry ever, they seem pretty popular now lol.

Are you single? Recently single and feeling pretty content.

Your Favourite Book? Wuthering Heights, it’s got a dark edge to it that I just love. 

Your favourite artist/s/group? Has to be Miley Cyrus, loved her since I was about 14.

What’s your nickname behind the bar? Takeaway Jamie – I wonder how you get a nickname like that haha

What gets you swinging your hips? I like a lot of 50/60s rock and roll like Buddy Holly and Elvis.
 

OPINION: A patchwork family by Michael Steinhage

“So Mike, being gay, did you do it?” 

Desmond at work is one of those butter knife blunt people, somewhere on the high-functioning spectrum many say, but I’ve always found him refreshingly direct and honest.

A valid question, is it not? Most people want to ask. Most people are too polite to. But most people want to know whether I had sex with a lesbian to make a baby.

Now the funny thing is, they could just ask because I’m not at all shy about the answer, so I tell Desmond: “Of course not, don’t be gross! We used plastic containers, as it should be!”.

So how do you make a family? My parents, they met in high school. They started ‘going out’. When my dad was in the army for two years, his picture was on the bedside table, bar a handful of times when, I’m told, it was put in the drawer for an hour or two.

They got married and then had my sister and me. Their family. A traditional family, if you want to call it that.

My own family started roughly a decade ago. The lesbians said they wanted to have my baby, and I looked at them and told them they were crazy. We’d long been the best of friends, and periodically, the topic would crop up again. And before long, I didn’t find it so crazy anymore. I’ve always liked children, I’ve always wanted children. In fact, arguably inspired by my parents and their journey, I always saw myself finding a boyfriend, getting engaged and married, buying a house with a garden and all the trimmings and then, at some point, adopting one or two.

My life was not going to turn out like that, but it offered me an alternative. Before long, I started thinking: “So what if? What if I had a kid with these two?” Outsource having children to lesbians you might say. Could be kinda cool. Plus who would be more equipped to bring up a new human than them? Leave better kids for the planet and all that.

So I said yes. The next time we spoke, I said yes and they ordered the kit, on Amazon. (Plus they’d said if I wasn’t going to do it then they’d ask Gavin. Who’s Gavin? Exactly. What kind of a kid would they have gotten from Gavin!).

And so that’s how we made our family. At the second attempt I proudly add. A man is a man after all, modern family or not. Yes, we’re often called a ‘Modern Family’, but I don’t think that’s what we are. My parents use the word ‘Patchwork’, and that’s how it makes sense to them. They love their patchwork family fiercely. Two mummies, a daddy, grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins and a whole lot of Godmothers, fairy and otherwise. And in the middle of it all, a very special little boy. To me, we’re just a family, nothing more, nothing less.

New campaign to help eliminate HIV

The University of Brighton is working on a national campaign which aims to help eliminate HIV within a generation.

Dr Mary Darking
Dr Mary Darking

In partnership with clinicians and researchers, the campaign’s goal will be to improve the nation’s knowledge and understanding of HIV, and by doing so reduce the stigma associated with the virus.

It is hoped this will encourage more people to come forward for testing.  When diagnosed early, highly effective treatment for HIV largely guarantees a good quality of life and an extremely low chance of passing the virus on.

Dr Mary Darking, Senior Lecturer in the University’s School of Applied Social Science said the United Nations recently reported that “the scales have tipped” – for the first time more than half of people living with HIV (53%) have access to treatment, and HIV-related deaths have almost halved since 2005.

She said: “Through intensive effort on the part of communities, clinicians, researchers and policy makers, the scales are tipping in the right direction. The consequences of them tipping the other way – of the world moving from a position where we are making progress, to one where we are losing ground – are grave and would be borne by generations to come. 

“However, if progress continues, there is optimism that we could end HIV in a generation. 

“This could be achieved if testing for HIV became something that people were proud of.  And they should!  Because it is by testing we become the generation that ended HIV/AIDS.  It would mean actively ensuring our knowledge is up-to-date.

“It would mean understanding and not judging.”

The University will be working with clinicians and researchers at the Brighton & Sussex University Hospitals NHS Trust (BSUH) and Dr Jaime Vera at the Brighton & Sussex Medical School (BSMS).

Funding is being provided by Public Health England (HIV Innovations Awards 2017/8). In addition to helping develop the campaign, the University’s School of Applied Social Science will evaluate its outcomes.

The project, which runs until November 2018, involves developing a digital public health campaign to ensure “the public knows about and understands what is at stake and how their actions can make a difference”.

Debra Humphris
Debra Humphris

Professor Debra Humphris, the University of Brighton’s Vice-Chancellor, added her support to the campaign: “HIV has brought misery to thousands of people and I am so pleased Dr Darking and the University are playing a part in bringing an end to the stigma surrounding this virus and, in doing so, helping banish AIDS.”

Led by Dr Gillian Dean from the Lawson Unit (BSUH), which offers treatment and support for people with HIV, the project will develop a digital social media campaign using illustrations, films and testimonials from people living with HIV to challenge assumptions and improve knowledge.

Dr Carlos Peralta from the University’s School of Architecture and Design and Dr Liliana Rodriguez from the Martin Fisher Foundation, will lead the design and development of the campaign.

The leading international anti-bullying charity, Ditch the Label, based in Brighton & Hove, will be tasked with making the short films and ensuring the campaign reaches as many people as possible through social media platforms.

The campaign is one of a number of projects being conducted by clinicians at the Lawson Unit in collaboration with the Martin Fisher Foundation, which led Brighton & Hove’s successful bid to become the first UK City to achieve United Nation’s ‘Fast-Track City’ status.

Fast-Track City’s aim to achieve the following targets:

♦ 90% of people living with HIV (PLHIV) knowing their HIV status
♦ 90% of PLHIV who know their HIV-positive status on antiretroviral therapy (ART)
♦ 90% of PLHIV on ART achieving viral suppression
♦ Zero stigma and discrimination

The University contributed to the application and continues to be a local partner.

Dr Darking said: “So much has changed about HIV. The nation needs a knowledge update.

“There is a real opportunity here to inspire new ways of thinking about and understanding of HIV. That is what this group wants to achieve.”

Dr Darking said she wants to involve as many people at the University in the project as possible: “I will be recruiting staff and students to focus groups and hope as many people participate as possible.

“I’d like to get the University community behind the campaign, if I can, so they see themselves as contributing to making it successful.”

Author Cath Lloyd shines spotlight on trans issues

Truth, honesty, anger, acceptance and love were some of the themes under discussion when author Cath Lloyd spoke to college students about her life with her transgender father.

Author Cath Lloyd with students Jasmine Wood, 17, Reece Bowskill, 16, (back row) Brandon Lewis, 18, and Chloe Simpson, 17 (front row).
Author Cath Lloyd with students Jasmine Wood, 17, Reece Bowskill, 16, (back row) Brandon Lewis, 18, and Chloe Simpson, 17 (front row).

The writer, lifestyle coach and stress-relief expert shared her first-hand experiences with more than 150 students at West Nottinghamshire College, Mansfield, this week (Tuesday, February 6) in a series of talks arranged by the student experience team to mark LGBT History Month, which runs throughout February.

Mrs Lloyd discussed how she initially struggled to accept her dad Martin’s surprise announcement in 1987, that he wanted to become a woman; highlighting her emotions, inner-conflict and torment as she wondered if things would ever feel normal again.

She went on to share her story of how, after initially fighting against her father’s gender re-assignment, she developed coping mechanisms to finally conquer her anxieties and learn to not only accept his life-changing decision but embrace it.

Mrs Lloyd has now turned her candid account into a book, called When Dad Became Joan: Life with My Transgender Father, which also serves as a self-help guide for anybody coming to terms with change, whether gender transitioning, separation, loss, illness, disability or living through trauma.

Level 3 public services student Chloe Simpson, 17, from Sutton-in-Ashfield, said: “Cath was really inspirational. She explained things very well and answered our questions in great detail. If you want to change sex, I think it’s completely natural and it’s your decision. You should do whatever makes you happy.”

Classmate Reece Bowskill, 16, from Mansfield Woodhouse, added: “It was very informative and I learned more about how complicated the process is, how long it takes and how determined somebody needs to be to go through with it. Even though I’ve never had a problem with transgender issues, this has given me a wider view. If anything, I will respect people’s differences even more.”

Author Cath Lloyd (centre) with students Brandon Lewis, 18, Jasmine Wood, 17, (left), Reece Bowskill, 16, and Chloe Simpson, 17 (both right).
Author Cath Lloyd (centre) with students Brandon Lewis, 18, Jasmine Wood, 17, (left), Reece Bowskill, 16, and Chloe Simpson, 17 (both right).

Mrs Lloyd, from Dudley, West Midlands, said: “My overall message was about the need to be OK with who you are, and to challenge your thought processes around things you find uncomfortable and learn to accept those difficult feelings. That is the key to learning, changing, understanding and building better relationships.

“If people are experiencing anxiety and stress when they’re young and don’t resolve it, this will build-up throughout their lives and really affect them. If they can start to manage it now, they are going to be in a better position to live happier, healthier lives.

“The students asked extremely good questions. It’s nice to see young people showing such an interest in this topic and being so inquisitive.”

When Dad Became Joan: Life with My Transgender Father costs £14.99 in paperback and £6.99 on Kindle.

It is available at www.cathlloyd.co.uk and on Amazon.

 

PREVIEW: 45 Minutes of organ music

D’Arcy Trinkwon
D’Arcy Trinkwon

45 Minutes of Music @The Meeting House, University of Sussex, Brighton.

The increasingly successful series of 45 Minutes of Music @ the Meeting House continues on February 28.  There are four monthly concerts on the last Wednesday (except March) of each month till May. All start at 12 noon (March’s concert is on Wednesday 21).

The series is performed by the internationally acclaimed concert organist and University Organist, D’Arcy Trinkwon, who is acclaimed as one of the outstanding virtuoso musicians of his generation. He is also Organist of Worth Abbey.

These fascinating, relaxed and informal concerts include interesting verbal introductions from D’Arcy who explains details and background of each piece of music, to help make the music accessible to even those new to great organ music. The concerts are aimed to be interesting and accessible to everyone, and the growing audiences indicate that they are!

The organ in the Meeting House is one of the finest organs in the South East and is also one of the iconic instruments of its period; built in 1966 by Grant, Degens and Bradbeer, its futuristic design still looks avant-garde today.

It was recently fully restored by Clevedon Organs with the addition of a very modern mobile console which allows the audience to watch everything the performer is doing.

The Winter-Spring series 2018 is called Fantasia!.

After the technical gymnastics and wizardry of the last series (‘Pedal Power – See what feet can do!’) D’Arcy takes us on a fantastical journey exploring fantasias written for the organ over five centuries. As always, there’s a huge variety of music – from Elizabeth I’s time to the present.

Musically a fantasia may be described variously as: ‘a free musical composition structured according to the composer’s fancy, a musical composition with a free form and often an improvisatory style, or a musical composition based on several familiar tunes and a thing composed of a mixture of different forms or styles’


Event: 45 Minutes of Music @The Meeting House

Where: The Meeting House, University of Sussex, Falmer, Brighton,

When: February 28: March 21: April 25 & May 30

Time: 12noon c. 45 minutes

Cost: Free entry


Programmes featured:

February 28     Bach · Telemann · Alain · Liszt

March 21            Bach · Sweelinck · Mozart · Saint-Saëns· Weiner

April 25              Bach · Byrd · Krebs · Mozart · Saint-Saëns · Vrána

May 30               Bach · Sweelinck · Franck · Racquet · Eben

 

Inclusion advocate makes history on Isle of Man

Homophobia survivor, educator and award-winning positive LGBT+ Inclusion in Education Champion Shaun Dellenty supports entire Isle of Man education system to foster positive inclusion and eradicate LGBT+ Bullying.

In January, 2018 Dellenty began a long-term, extensive suite of work supporting the Isle of Man Department for Education, Schools and Culture to help the Island’s thirty-two primary and five secondary schools become more fully inclusive for LGBT+ students and for those perceived to be ‘different’ in a manner that renders them vulnerable to bullying.

Homosexuality was only decriminalised on the Isle of Man in 1992 and same-sex marriage was legislated for on the Island on July 22, 2016.

The Island’s equivalent of the UK Equality Act is being phased in from January 2018 and places sexual orientation and gender reassignment as ‘protected characteristics’ meaning that all Isle of Man schools have a duty to protect all young people from discrimination and work pro-actively to foster good relationships and further equality.

Dellenty is a multi-award winner for his existing portfolio of LGBT+ inclusion work, having been named ‘Education Champion’ Excellence In Diversity Awards 2016, awarded the Mayor of Southwark’s Highest Civic Honour at Southwark Cathedral in 2016, ‘Points of Light’ designation from Prime Minister David Cameron and in May 2017 official recognition from the three Faiths Forum.

Dellenty has been supported in his work in schools by fundraising from the Brighton Actually Gay Men’s Chorus.

In March 2016 he delivered a rousing keynote speech at the International Diversity Conference alongside a world-class line of speakers, including Heather Melville OBE. In Autumn 2017 he was invited back by the Isle of Man Department for Education, Schools and Culture to begin work with schools.

Over the course of the initial week of work, he delivered assemblies and workshops to primary and secondary age pupils, met with the Isle of Man LGBT+ Youth Group in Douglas, led training for the School Improvement Team at the Department for Education, Schools and Culture and made history by addressing and leading workshops with all senior Isle of Man school leaders and the Minister for Education, Sport and Culture the Honourable Graham Creegen MHK.

Dellenty was also interviewed for the main island radio station Manx Radio.

Dellenty said: “I feel highly privileged to be invited to support the Department to help island schools build on their existing good practice to meet their moral and statutory duties on bullying on behalf of all of the diverse young people living on the Isle of Man.

“Having borne witness to some of their stories, I know how much this suite of work means to so many and it is a once in a lifetime opportunity to make a huge positive difference to the lives of young islanders and to further nurture an island community where difference is viewed as something that we all have a common and therefore binds us together as human beings.

“After such an inspiring week, I cannot wait to return in February during LGBT History Month to continue my work with the school, island communities and other agencies such as the police.”

Dellenty will deliver a FREE public talk on positive LGBT+ inclusion in schools at Amnesty International UK Headquarters in Shoreditch, London at 6.30pm on February 19 during LGBT History Month.

To book tickets online, click here:

Photo shows: Shaun Dellenty with Chrissy Callaghan of the Isle of Man Department of Education, Sports and Culture at Ramsey Grammar School where he delivered six student assemblies and worked with School Council and Staff.

Awareness day to focus on city’s young carers

Are you a young carer? If so Brighton & Hove City Council wants to hear from you.

Carers are people who provides unpaid support to family or friends who couldn’t manage without this help. This can mean caring for a relative, partner or friend who is ill, frail, disabled, or has mental health or substance misuse problems.

According to the Carers Trust there could be as many as 700,000 carers across the UK who are aged 18 or under. However, only a fraction of these – currently 30% – have been identified and are receiving support from organisations such as councils and charities.

Young carers often miss out on fun activities and seeing friends because of their caring role. They often don’t do as well at school as their peers, and are more likely to have issues with school absence and emotional or mental health needs.

However, many young carers also have a positive view of their caring role. They cite added appreciation for their time spent with family members and the pride they take in supporting loved ones.

Brighton & Hove City Council is marking national Young Carers Day on Thursday February 25 with an appeal for young carers in the city – or people who know of young carers – to get in touch with the City’s Carers Hub.

The Carers Hub is a joint project led by the city’s Carers Centre involving the council, the local NHS and other charities aimed at offering support to local carers.

Cllr Dan Chapman
Cllr Dan Chapman

Chair of the council’s children, young people and skills committee, Councillor Dan Chapman, said: “There’s a national issue with young carers going under the radar of organisations that may be able to offer them support. We want to tackle this head on.

“We and our partner organisations currently support just over 200 young carers, but it’s estimated that in Brighton & Hove there are more than 500 carers aged 18 or under.

“They do a fantastic job supporting their loved ones. We want to make sure our city’s young carers are receiving all the support they are entitled to, and have the same opportunities as other young people.”

If you are a young person who spends time in a caring role for family members, or if you know of a young person in this position, click here:

Or phone Brighton & Hove Carers’ Hub on 01273 977000.

B RIGHT ON LGBT Community Festival: Soul Safari

As part of LGBT History Month, Soul Safari will explores LGBT spirituality at the B RIGHT ON LGBT Community Festival (BRO LGBT CF).

BRO LGBT CF celebrates LGBT History Month, is organised by volunteers of the Brighton & Hove LGBT Community Safety Forum and will take place at the Phil Starr Pavilion – a multi functional, fully accessible, heated performance, conference and community space with a licensed bar which is located on Victoria Gardens, Brighton, BN1 1WN.

FREE workshops include:

♦ Everyday mindfulness
♦ Healing through poetry
♦ Is the gender binary divinely ordained
♦ The depth of connection in sacred intimacy

FREE activities include:

♦ Temporary tattoos
♦ Egyptian healing
♦ Henna tattoos
♦ Jesus deck card readings
♦ Tarot card readings
♦ Shiatsu massage
♦ Reiki healing
♦ Fabric flower making
♦ Drag and Wig station
♦ Storytelling and music sessions
♦ Crafting, Trans spirituality
♦ Gender queer beauty parlour
♦ Chit chat and colouring in station
♦ Death Cafe Brought collectively by Pagans, Christians, Muslims, and groups from many other traditions.

Book a space or just turn up on the day!


Event: Soul Safari LGBT+ Mind, Body, Spirit festival

Where: Phil Starr Pavilion, Victoria Gardens,

When: February 25

Time: 10am – 4pm

Cost: Free

To reserve your place online, click here:

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