A new adoptionĀ service, run in partnership by the two āOutstandingā rated adoption agencies Caritas Care and Adoption Matters, will attend this yearās Manchester Pride on August 25 to 26.
THE service, at the forefront of new routes into adoption, combining adoption and fostering to give children the best start in life has approved over 75 families in the last 4 years and placed 81 children for adoption, 64% under the age of 6 weeks old.
The largest of its kind in the country, this exciting, creative and innovative service minimises disruption and unnecessary moves for very young children.
Angela Chapman, Service Manager said: āBoth agencies are proud members ofĀ New Family Social,Ā we know from experience that LGBT+ people often come to adoption with an open mind and real enthusiasm ā itās often their first choice for growing their family.
“You can be single, over the age of 45, and you donāt need to own your own home to consider adoption via concurrent planning. We need people with stability, love and resourcefulness who can who can help a child with whatever needs they may have.”
Vince, a 35-year-old single gay male started his concurrent planning journey last year, this is his story:Ā
āJust over fifty years ago, I would have been arrested in the UK for promoting the fact I was a gay male. Back then, it was inconceivable to think that gay people had the right to love, cohabit or even publicly show affection to anyone of the same-sex.
Can you even begin to imagine the consequences of same-sex couples or single gay people being given the right to care for or adopt children who needed the two fundamental needs of all human being: to be loved, and cared for? It was a reality far from anyoneās mind at that time.
Fast forward to present day and it is evident to see the opportunities open to LBGT+ communities when it comes to practising the desire of most human beings on this planet, to be a carer or potential parent to a child who needs stability and love. It is thanks to many people before my time who fought for the right of equality that allows me, a 35-year-old single gay male, to currently care for an amazing baby boy.
I wasnāt raised to believe things are not possible. In fact, I was always told that anything is possible as long as you reach hard enough through barriers to grab it. It was always my belief that I was put on this earth to be a parent; I just chose to go that one step further and concurrently care for a child in the hope that would lead onto me becoming a parent.
I started to really think about it seriously when I started to change my lifestyle about two years ago now in preparation for the changes ahead. Thatās when I gave up my āposhā apartment and sports car so that I could get something a little bit more sensible!
I made the decision to embark on the concurrent planning journey with the knowledge that, even if adoption is not the final outcome, I have provided love, support and stability to a little human being for as long as they are with me. I am proud to be a single gay male concurrent carer, and it is a path that I champion.
I know there are more straight-forward routes out there but for me, it was more important to give a child a home, regardless of the outcome. There are tonnes of kids out there, so I didnāt see the point of going down the surrogacy route when I could give my time to kids who were already born but just didnāt have a home of their own.
Do not get me wrong; itās been a mixture of high and lows. The highs are the fact that I have the little one now and Iāve kind of forgotten about some of the lows. I did find the panel a bit daunting; this is where they make the decision as to whether youāre suitable to foster a child. This process is there for a good reason though and the outcome for me, the children involved, and many others is absolutely life changing.
As a guy doing this on my own, I go to different parenting groups every day and am usually the only male amongst many breastfeeding women so thatās interesting!
Iāve had a few debates over that fact that he will never have a permanent āMumā in his life if I adopt him as a gay man. Some agree with that, others donāt but itās an argument that Iām willing to have with anyone.
It can be tough, cathartic and incredibly emotional but itās also an experience that is full of support, laughter and reward. Never let who you are stop you from being what you want to be. I am so proud to be part of a movement that is breaking down walls and fulfilling dreams of being concurrent carer/s or adoptive parent/s into reality. Itās a journey I have loved and continue to do soā.
Go and chat to theĀ Concurrent Planning Team in the Expo for a chat about this innovative route to adoption.
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