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PREVIEW: Waterstones presents Jake Shears in conversation

At this special event the lead singer of multiplatinum-selling glam rock band Scissor Sisters and one of the World’s most famous LGBT+ icons will discuss his beautifully wide-eyed and determined coming-of-age memoir: Boys Keep Swinging with award-winning journalist and author, Matthew Todd.

Before becoming lead singer with the Scissor Sisters, Jake Shears was Jason Sellards, just a kid with an unfathomable imagination and a love of He-Man dolls.

Splitting life between Arizona and the Pacific West Coast, his childhood was marked by school bullies and the terror of the rise and misunderstanding surrounding the AIDS virus.

With changes in age and geography Shears gradually found a sense of belonging – first in Seattle, then in the street life and lights of New York City in the late 90s where, with friends and musicians also thirsting for freedom and the stage, he would form Scissor Sisters and go on to sell out venues worldwide.

“The purpose of my life is to entertain. It’s a constant feedback loop.”


Event: Waterstones presents Jake Shears in conversation

Where: The Old Market, Upper Market Street, Hove, BN3 1AS

When: Friday, May 4

Time: 7.30pm

Cost: £26, includes admission and a copy of book or £10 general admission

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Council launches e-asy way to read and listen to books

The city council’s library service launches new way to download and read eBooks and listen to eAudiobooks.

Members of Brighton & Hove library services will be able to download the new BorrowBox app to their digital devices and access thousands of eBooks and eAudiobooks free of charge at any time of the day.

BorrowBox replaces the current Overdrive service and Libby app which will stop this Friday February 23, at 7pm. From this time, members will be unable to view or listen to any eBooks or eAudiobooks borrowed through Overdrive or Libby.

Instead they will be able to download the BorrowBox app from the Apple app store for iOS users and the Google Play store for Android users. Kindle users can also download the app, while PC users can access BorrowBox through the website.

Once downloaded, you simply choose Brighton & Hove City Libraries in the app, enter your library card number and PIN plus your email address.

Almost every eBook on the Overdrive service will be transferred to the BorrowBox system, and there will be hundreds of new titles available, including a brand new collection of eAudiobook titles. Due to licensing restrictions, the eAudiobooks available on Overdrive may differ to those on BorrowBox.

Cllr Emma Daniel, chair of neighbourhoods, inclusion, communities and equalities committee, said: “BorrowBox is a new app that offers a brand new and wider collection of eBooks and eAudiobooks with an app that is accessible, intuitive and simple to operate and enjoy. It will also offer virtually every eBook previously available on Overdrive as well as some great new titles.”

Adding: “BorrowBox is like having an entire portable library on your phone, tablet or computer. There’s something for everyone, including bestsellers, award winners and new releases for adults, young people and children.” 

Library members can borrow up to 10 items at any one time – five eBooks and five eAudiobooks – for three weeks.

For more information about Borrowbox, click here:

LGBT and want to adopt or foster?

PARENTS And Children Together (PACT) will hold a special Brighton event for anyone interested in finding out more about LGBT adoption.

The event, on Saturday, March 10, which is being held to help mark national LGBT Adoption and Fostering Week, will feature a question and answer session with a panel of PACT LGBT adopters. LGBT Adoption and Fostering Week runs from March 5 -11.

PACT supports families across the south-east through adoption, award-winning therapeutic support and community projects, actively recruits LGBT adopters and 35 per cent of people who adopted with PACT in 2017 were from the LGBT communities.

The agency’s Brighton office, which specialises in LGBT adoption but also welcomes heterosexual adopters, is organising the event for people who are considering adoption or who are in the process of adopting.

The panel of adopters will share their adoption stories and answer questions about their experiences of adoption. There will also be opportunities for people to talk individually with experienced adopters and PACT social workers as well as to meet other prospective adopters over refreshments.

Mark and Laurence, who adopted a sister and brother through PACT in 2016, are among the adopters taking part in the panel.

The couple said: “This event is a great opportunity for anyone considering adoption to find out what it’s really like from people like us who have been through it and now have two amazing children and a fantastic family life as a result.

“We’re really looking forward to sharing our story and answering any questions that people might have, in the hope this can inspire more people to take the first step towards starting or extending a family through adoption.

“We couldn’t imagine our lives without children now and it all started with an initial enquiry with PACT. This has been an amazing journey for us and if it is something that you are considering, when the time is right for you, PACT will be there to hold your hand throughout every stage.”

Jan Fishwick OBE
Jan Fishwick OBE

PACT Chief Executive Jan Fishwick OBE says: “One of the best ways for anyone thinking about adoption to find out more is to talk with people who have already adopted. This event offers an ideal chance for people to speak to and ask questions of some of our inspirational families and our expert staff.

“We are extremely proud to be supporting national LGBT Adoption and Fostering Week again, and we look forward to working with many more wonderful LGBT adopters this year.”


Event: LGBT Adoption Event during LGBT Adoption and Fostering Week

Where: Brighthelm Centre, North Road, Brighton

When: Saturday, March 10

Time: 2pm – 4.30pm

Cost: Free event – light refreshments will be served.

To book a place at the event call 0300 456 4800 or email: enquiries@pactcharity.org

 

 

PACT is one of the leading adoption charities in the Consortium of Voluntary Adoption Agencies (CVAA) in terms of placing more children with loving families. In 2017 PACT placed 82 children with 56 PACT families through its adoption services.

 

REVIEW: Dead and Breathing @The Albany, London

A somber kaftan laden upper-class cancer patient, Carolyn (Lizan Mitchell), unashamedly bares all as she is bathed by working class (and transsexual) carer, Veronika (Kim Tatum aka Mzz Kimberley).

Chisa Hutchinson and Rebecca Atkinson-Lord’s Dead and Breathing brings two people together – one who has it all with no moral values and one who has nothing but her faith in Christianity – and explores what people are willing to do for what they want. In this case, spread across a lavish boudoir.

Mzz Kimberley is fresh off Transformation Street, an ITV documentary depicting patients going through gender reassignment. Dead and Breathing is certainly the perfect segway from the inspiring series and her ‘reach through to your heart’ kind of authenticity is what makes her character so believable.

This alongside Mitchell’s abrasive demeanour make for a remarkable dance between wrong and right, morals and wants. As Tatum’s character opens up about her struggles as a trans person, she presents a serene Mandella-like protest that defies the need for a ‘normal life’ – with courage and dignity completely intact.

Hutchinson and Atkinson-Lord make for a creatively distinct expression and it shines through in the production’s women-power-esque duo.

Dead and Breathing runs at the The Albany, Douglas Way, London SE8 4AG till March 3.

To book tickets online, click here:

Or call the box office: 020 8692 4446

REVIEW: Jubliee @Lyric, Hammersmith

THIS CAN ONLY BE 1977. …RIGHT?

Chris Goode’s adaptation of Derek Jarman and James Whaley’s Jubilee was a ravenously sex-fueled and unvarnished representation of the state that the world is in.

It assures to have one question if royalty or religion are still relevant in an ever-changing society.

Toyah Willcox goes from rebel to regal as she makes a comeback having played Mad in the original movie and now bringing delightful grace to the stage as Elizabeth I. Unsurprisingly she owns every second of her role as an onlooker from the past.

Jubilee’s blatant dialogue and minimal use of symbolism makes for a refreshing take on what are usually controversial topics. It is explicit beginning to end and makes no apologies for it.

Travis Alabanza does a remarkable job playing Amyl Nitrate, a struggling and shadowed transsexual. Amyl shines as a Monopoly game becomes a gut-wrenching statement about how the trans community is repressed.

Other mentions include Rose Wardlaw as Crabs, token sex fiend and femme fatale, who embodies a naive innocence and hunger that most can relate to.  There is a poetic synergy between all characters without losing each of their own personalities and makes for an exhilarating watch, albeit a shocking reality check.

Jubilee plays at the Lyric Hammersmith till March 10.

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Community Lunch brings people together at B RIGHT ON LGBT Community Festival

Lunch Positive held a Community Lunch on Saturday February 17 as part of the B RIGHT ON LGBT Community Festival at the Phil Starr Pavilion in central Brighton.

The lunch was attended by the Mayor of Brighton & Hove Cllr. Mo Marsh and around 120 people.

The impressive turn-out of included many people from LGBT and HIV communities who had never previously attended such a community event.

Diners commented on the welcoming, friendly and inclusive atmosphere of the lunch, the exciting menu and the tasty food that was all cooked from fresh ingredients.

The Community Lunch was prepared and served by Lunch Positive volunteers with the support of other community groups following a community call-out.

Volunteers from Dragonfly Collective, LGBT Community Safety Forum, MCC Brighton, Navigate, and Rainbow Chorus all helped to bring the event together.

Forty-two people gave their time to volunteer, and everyone commented on how enjoyable it was.

Gary Pargeter
Gary Pargeter

Gary Pargeter, Service Manager: “We all had such a great time at the Community Lunch. We are so grateful to everyone that came along, and everyone who volunteered. It was so enjoyable to meet and spend time with everyone. It’s important to us that everyone feels comfortable, included and part of a supportive community. People said they felt that at the event. Thank you, that means so much to us!”

Last chance to sign up for the Brighton Marathon

Martlets has a final few places for runners who want to sign up to the Brighton Marathon on Sunday, April 15; but runner need to act fast since the deadline is Friday 2 March.

Brighton Marathon is one of the UK’s best runs, set against the stunning backdrop of the seaside in our most vibrant of cities.

Registration costs just £50 to sign up to Team Martlets and runners must raise a minimum of £500 in sponsorship for the hospice.

Clem Hunnisett from the Martlets Fundraising Team, said: “This really is your final chance to get a place in the Brighton Marathon so get in touch today!

“Once we have confirmed that you have a place we will send you our Martlets’ fundraising pack which will help you to reach your sponsorship target and a running vest to wear on the day.

“If you’ve already got your place and would like to run for us then please do get in touch so that we can support you with your fundraising.”

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Tonight at B RIGHT ON LGBT Community Festival: The Seven Doors of Danny

A new musical based on Shakespeare’s The Seven Ages of Man with music by Ricky Horscraft, words by John McCullough with additional material for musical theatre adaptation by Tom Slater-Hyndman.

Performed by members of Actually Gay Men’s Chorus, University of Sussex Symphony Orchestra, guest performers and featuring Kara Van Park as Tequila Heels.

The Seven Doors of Danny, a new poetic musical by John McCullough and Ricky Horscraft.

The B Right On LGBT Community Festival celebrates LGBT History Month, is organised by the volunteers of the Brighton & Hove LGBT Community Safety Forum and takes place at the Phil Starr Pavilion – a multi functional, fully accessible, heated performance, conference and community space with a licensed bar which is located on Victoria Gardens, Brighton, BN1 1WN.

FEATURE: 8 ways how not to be an idiot to someone who has quit drinking

By Dr Bunmi Aboaba, founder of The Sober Advantage .

Dr Bunmi Aboaba
Dr Bunmi Aboaba

What do the phrases “Is there any vodka in that coke?” and “Not another one?!” have in common? They’re two types of things you shouldn’t say to someone when they’re trying to quit drinking.

The biggest way you can help someone try to kick booze is to help yourself first. By this, I mean educate yourself on what not to say and do. In other words, don’t be that idiot friend!

Here’s a few of my best tips on how to make it easier for your friend, partner or relative who wants to stop drinking.

1.     Don’t say “but you’re not an alcoholic”

Sure, they might not be pounding shots at 7am just to get through the day, but just because they weren’t drinking 24/7 it doesn’t mean they didn’t have an alcohol problem. There are many different forms of alcoholism from alcohol dependency where they need to continuously drink just to cope with the waking hours to alcohol abuse where it’s a case of not drinking for long periods of time then when they do drink it’s like they can’t stop. It’s always a good idea to keep in mind that alcoholism is a spectrum.

2.     Offer to do fun stuff with them that doesn’t involve alcohol

Don’t be that person where the only time they’ll see you is if you both go to a bar or the meet-up always seems to include alcohol. There’s so much to see and do in this world – so why not see and do them with your friend, partner or relative? I’m talking art galleries, museums, theatre, crazy golf, zorbing, paintballing – the list really is endless. Your friend or partner is guaranteed to love you for not taking them down your local and exposing them to the temptations of their favourite alcoholic drink or awkwardly having to be sober around drunk people.

3.     Avoid being judgy

There’s a lot of truth in the phrase “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all” – especially when it comes to supporting a recovering alcoholic and especially if you’ve never been in their shoes. Avoid shaming them or judging them – they’re doing the best they can and the fact they realised they have a problem with alcohol is highly respectable in itself! Shaming someone with a drinking problem can actually make them turn to alcohol to soothe their self-esteem.

4.     Be their ‘go-to’ friend to talk to

Your friend is going through something tough and life-changing and the chances are they will need someone to talk to and express their feelings. In fact, you should actively encourage them to let it all out – keeping it in can only cause further damage.

5.     Don’t try to save them

By all means, be there for them when they need you but remember to look after yourself too. Don’t try to ‘save’ them – as that’s a big sign of a codependent relationship…which is an addiction in itself. Instead, remember to take time out for yourself too. This isn’t entirely selfish because it means you’ll be a better friend, relative or partner seeing as you’ll have more energy. Remember – you can’t change a loved one, but you can sure as hell give them some much-needed love and support.

6.     Don’t be an enabler

An enabler is someone who says or does things that somehow allows the other person to carry on with their bad habits or behaviour. This means you can’t make excuses for them. It’ll only end up with them taking advantage of you and continuing down the road back to alcohol. For example, don’t go out and buy them beer, don’t tell them to “just have one drink” and don’t convince them they don’t have a problem.

7.     Don’t feel sorry for them

There’s a lot of good reasons as to why people don’t drink – and your loved one also has their personal reasons. By not drinking alcohol they’ve opened up a whole world of benefits such as better sleep, being a better friend or partner, being more productive, feeling more level-headed and much more… so, to be honest, there isn’t a lot to feel sorry for!

8.     Avoid giving them non-alcoholic beer

If you’re hosting a party, then you might think you’re being considerate by buying non-alcoholic beer for your friend. Most people aren’t just addicted to the taste of alcohol, but the psychological effects it has. It’s best to avoid non-alcoholic beer as this could trigger the need for alcoholic drinks. People who are trying to quit drink would be just as happy with an ice-cold coke!

Dr Bunmi Aboaba a sobriety companion and coach is founder of the Sober Advantage. She is dedicated to helping professionals overcome drinking problems. Her combination of holistic therapies is used to prepare a bespoke plan designed to fit around busy schedules. Bunmi helps people battling a variety of addictions to get control of their lives and beat their addiction – for good.  Bunmi uses a variety of techniques to help her clients, all of which she has used herself to help her gain her sobriety and remain sober for 10 years.

See: www.thesoberadvantage.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/bunmiaboaba/

Today at B RIGHT ON LGBT Community Festival: LGBT History Bingo – With Guy Lloyd from Juice 107.2

As part of LGBT HISTORY MONTH and The B Right On LGBT Community Festival, the LGBT Community Safety Forum present LGBT History Bingo hosted by Guy Lloyd from Juice FM.

Go along and join in the fun! Suggested Donation of £5! Raising funds for Accessibility Matters!

If you have any access requirement email: access@lgbt-help.com or call 01273 855620 and select option 4.

The B Right On LGBT Community Festival celebrates LGBT History Month, is organised by the volunteers of the Brighton & Hove LGBT Community Safety Forum and takes place at the Phil Starr Pavilion – a multi functional, fully accessible, heated performance, conference and community space with a licensed bar which is located on Victoria Gardens, Brighton, BN1 1WN.


Event: LGBT History Bingo – With Brighton’s Juice 107.2 Guy Lloyd

Where: Phil Starr Pavilion, Victoria Gardens, Brighton

When: Thursday, February 22

Time: Doors open at 7pm: Eyes down 8pm

Cost: Suggested donation of £5

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